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MISSION STATEMENT
I am Hein van der Merwe, a recovering stutterer.- Yes I am! I am proud to be a diaphragmatic speaker, practicing a powerful speaking technique and reinforcing an eloquent speaking attitude to dissolve my old out-of-control-stuttering speaking behaviour.
For 17 years I have lived my life as I chronic stutterer. I've been blessed with wonderful parents, a brother and sister, who will love me no matter what I do, where I go, or how I speak. I've been able to go through life loved and cared for. I've been well educated and have been able to support myself entirely. I've had good relationships, still have, with friends and loved ones.
- I give sincere thanks for the love and support of my family and friends. Without them and the strong foundation they developed within me, I would be a very sad and boring human being.
However, because I stutter I feel that I have always had to hold back, hold back thoughts, opinions and emotions. I feel that I have not fully developed certain skills that I desire to be better at, skills that I feel that I am supposed to have. I've constantly lived in a certain kind of fear, fear of getting stuck on or not being able to say certain words. This has led to humiliation and other negative hurtful emotions that are now associated with my verbal communication.
- I have definitely improved my holding back behaviour. I have become more assertive and open about who I am, what I want, and what I enjoy doing. I feel I have developed skills and acquired knowledge that I did not previously have. I do not encounter any overwhelming fear of getting stuck on words any more. This has dissolved into a mild irritation and frustration in some situations where I find myself speaking sloppy and experience discomfort in my verbal communication. I use these feelings as indicators that I should relax, focus, concentrate and then enjoy expressing myself. By doing this I continue to dissolve negative associations with verbal communication.
I recently became part of a speaking program for stutterers that have shown me the road to freedom. A technique that can give me total control if correctly applied and frequently practised.
- I still believe that practicing and correctly applying the technique gives me full control in any speaking situation. I am proud to be associated with this speaking program
I have finally been able to translate my thoughts, Ideas and emotions FULLY to other people without fear or struggle for the first time in my life. It is called the McGuire Programme.
- The program name is still the same, and also the results J
My progress has been TREMENDOUS since I've joined this program and I've had plenty of enjoyable speaking situations.
- I am continually progressing and moving forward and have added many memories and references to enjoyable speaking situations J
Unfortunately I still have situations where I hold back, where I avoid, where I stutter uncontrollably and experience the fear I hate. I not am willing to accept this anymore, I refuse to regress to the way I used to speak and have the same experiences. My current living status does not allow me enough speaking situations to improve myself as a speaker, therefore I declare the following.......
- Yes, I do still have some situations that remind me of the past. I still refuse to see those experiences as acceptable and use them as motivation. My present living status is providing me opportunities to improve myself on all levels.
I hereby declare war on uncontrolled stuttering.
- You bet! The war is on! My armour is getting thicker and my weapons technology improving daily. There’s a whole army behind me. If you are a uncontrolled stutter trying to get me, be afraid, be very afraid, I am going to kill you!!!!!!! Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha!
I declare that I am going to devote a certain amount of time (and money) in my life to improve my speaking skills. I am going to travel the world with the focus on improving my verbal communication skills.
- Yip, eight months so far, and a whole lot of well spent money in seven countries.
I declare that I am going to do the following.......
- - To let go of my current living status,
Goodbye engineer, Helo talking traveller! - - To attend as many of the McGuire program courses and support groups as possible,
Attended 1 course in New Zealand, 2 in Australia, 1 in Scotland, 1 in Ireland and 1 in Holland. Attended the Melbourne and London McGuire support groups. I attended the Speakeasy support group in Tauranga, New Zealand, and the Stottercafe group in Rotterdam, Holland. I also attended 2 Toastmasters meetings in Sydney and 3 in London. - - To speak to as many people as possible and make friends worldwide,
I have spoken to 5503 people(to the best of my calculations) of whom about 500 where full disclosures. Not bad, I feel there is a space available for improvement and means discovery. I have made good,honest friends in every country that I have visited!! J - - To always practice controlled eloquent speaking,
To be honest, No, not always. During certain times I have given in to spontaneous, sloppy, uncontrolled speaking. I do however realize that I was aware of all those situations, this has given me the knowledge and experience to know on what I have to work on. In many situations however I was extremely eloquent, to such a point that I had to convince people that I actually stutter. I motivate myself to always aim for eloquent speech. - - To enter situations I have always feared, to deliberately use words that haunt me,
Yes! I have entered many exciting situations and have documented many of them on my blog! I have deliberatly used many feared words in speaking situations. I am however aware that I still have word avoidances and I realize there are still situations and words that I will enjoy improving on. - - To try and help other stutterers on their way to eloquent speaking,
I am thankfull that I can contribute to other stutterers recovery through coaching, support and giving advice. This is adding enormously to my own recovery. - - To learn as much from other people and experiences, using that to help and inspire.
-I have met many people, stutters and non, from different cultures, backgrounds, abilities and mindsets. I feel that I have gained valuable knowledge and have used that to help and inspire(even with a maori war dance!) and looking forward to continue doing this. - - To improve my skills that I desire to be better at and become a better and eventually eloquent speaker
I have unleashed dormant potential that has given me joy and confidence. I use these skills not only be a good speaker, but and effective and entertaining communicator. - - To see the world, grow as person and enjoy my life journey.
I see, I grow, and I am having a whole lot of fun doing it!
I feel that this is an opportunity, necessity and life adventure that I now am able to do and should grab hold of. I believe that by doing this I will conquer my fear of speaking, my fear of people, fear of myself, because that fear will prohibit my survival ......and I WILL survive!
- I am successfully surviving and am not letting go just yet! I am conquering, but more important, discovering.
I thank God for the protection and guidance He is providing through my traveling. The support and inspiration from family and friends (old and new!) is the blood through my veins.
Written by Hein van der Merwe on 18-03-2006 in Brooklyn, Pretoria, South Africa.
Evaluated by Hein van der Merwe on 11-01-2007 in Leytonstone,London,England.
Be ready for a fresh blog face, and a new,revised and improved Mission Statement in the next few days.
Note: If you would like to make my day, give advice,ask advice,evaluate or just say "Helo!".......leave a comment, it's free,fast and fun!

Sounds like you're still having a great time travelling. You're going back to South Africa for a few weeks? When? I'm going to be there for a bit at the end of this month. Will be in Cape Town from Jan 27th until Jan 30th. Let me know if you'll be there at the same time mate.
Cheers,
Michael Hay (Comment this)
Dis wonderlik om te hoor hoe jy gevorder het! En dis nog meer wonderlik dat jy aanhou groei! Dis regtig 'n eer om jou vriend te wees en ek is baie trots op jou! Jou lewens verhaal is regitg 'n inspirasie vir die res van ons! Mag jy met meer selfvertroue en oortuiging jou missie volhou die jaar! Onthou jy het altyd my ondersteuning!
Groete
Stephan (Comment this)
Great man, great! Dis genuine awesome om te sien hoeveel guts jy het.
Baie geluk met wat jy sover bereik het, en ek sien ter harte uit na wat jy nog gaan bereik.
Sien jou oor 'n paar dae!
Ek bid jou die liewe Heer se seën toe, en dat Hy Sy hand van beskerming oor jou sal hou.
Groete,
Jacques (Comment this)
Great om te sien hoe God jou seën,
Geniet dit ouboet
Groete
Die Groblers (Comment this)
Lekker om jou blog te lees . My interest kicked up a bit when you mentioned visiting electronic companies in the UK. If you are interested in an possible sales/marketing career I have a few contacts in the UK in this line and I would be pleased to introduce you to them. Let me know.
Groete
Dennis
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